At times in my life I think I have damaged relationships because I have had a low self-worth. I would beat them to the finish line and push them away. I thought if and when they really get to know me they would leave on their own accord. So I beat them there. Nothing like controlling the outcome, huh? Subconsciously I thought this was better than being left. I wasn’t even giving other people the respect to make their own choice because I could accept this way easier. Not quite the image of a successful entrepreneur. I was full of fear. Fear of success and fear of failure. I couldn’t measure up to my own expectations of perfection so how in the world could I live up to others?
The first thing I did to get better in this area was……..to give myself a break. Urgh….it seems so much easier to do for others than it did for myself. But it helped me. It helped to shrug my shoulders and say ok….that wasn’t great, but I accept responsibility for my actions but I can accept responsibility for changing my actions too. You are human and you can learn from this. I also have started getting honest. Being a better listener, willing to take suggestions, asking for help. This has helped me realize that I am not alone. Another thing I have tried to do is get out of myself. My mantra is “it is up to me”. The fastest way to get out of myself is to jump in and help others. Acting better always helps me feel better. I am worth it. I don’t have to be perfect. I just have to trust that I am good enough and I can let go. How we react to things and how I regulate my emotions is 90% of the work.